Who are you when you're on stage? Who are you when meeting someone new? What about when you're alone? If you ever feel like you might be wearing a "personality mask" to get through certain situations, you will love today's episode. My guest, Alex Bynum, is the founder of Empowher You: A Healing Center for Women located in Boston, Massachusetts. She is is also a certified spiritual guide, professional healer, and meditation instructor. We discuss what the personality mask is, why it exists, and what removing it can do for you. Through our conversation, she shares five strategies to help you abandon this mask and connect with the real you. We dig into how these strategies work and what they might look like if you were to apply them in your own life, key questions to ask yourself, and how to get started. If you are having trouble locating the real you and would like to build a stronger connection with your audience, your friends, and yourself, this episode will show you how. You can learn more about Alex Bynum at www.empowheryou.com.
Women are good negotiators. We advocate for our friends, our children, and our loved ones. But, often, when it comes to negotiating on our own behalf, especially when it comes to salary and speaking fees, we struggle. We are not as confident talking about ourselves. Dorrie Sieburg is Program Manager for AAUW’s salary negotiation workshops, AAUW Work Smart and AAUW Start Smart. Using the lens of the gender pay gap, their workshops empower women with the skills and confidence they need to successfully negotiate their salary and benefits. Dorrie has trained thousands of women over 9 years on college campuses, and in cities and communities across the country to ask for and receive the salary they deserve. In today's episode, Dorrie shares some of her negotiation tips, where women often go wrong in negotiating, and how to be effective at advocating for yourself. If you're looking for more confidence when asking for money to speak, setting consulting fees, or for your next salary, you won't want to miss this episode.
For more information on negotiation, check out episode 4 with Jamie Lee.
**I'm accepting questions for my next Q&A episode! Want your question featured? Email me at email@example.com.**
As speakers, we are also content creators. But are we doing it effectively? Writing a speech, putting together a blog or social media post, assembling a book, creating a course, and recording a podcast all fall under the umbrella of content creation. If you're speaking, you're likely thinking about content constantly and wondering how to repurpose it, how to create it faster, and most importantly, if it's what your customers actually care about. In today's episode, learn 5 tricks to easily build and repurpose content your customers love and you love to deliver. Some of this advice I learned the hard way and some of it changed my life overnight. I hope you find something in this episode that not only helps with the creation process, but also transforms the way you approach speaking. Enjoy!
*Note: I am putting together another Q&A episode. Have a question about public speaking? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I may feature it on the show.**
Public speaking isn't just about what you say, it's also about what you think. In today's episode, I interview Linda Ugelow, a public speaking and performing coach who helps entrepreneurs and professionals overcome their self-consciousness and nerves so they can be freely expressive in meetings, on video or on stage. She has a Master's in Expressive Therapy and has taught improvisation forms of movement for over 25 years. We discuss her methods for helping new speakers get over their fear of speaking and how to create new neural pathways to create a better experience on stage. Linda has built her own signature program that helps speakers of all levels gain more confidence, feel more connected to themselves, and build better presentations. You'll hear how she discovered the need for this work through her own experiences and the type of people who have benefited from what she does. If you deal with negative self-talk when thinking about or performing a speech, this episode is for you! Learn more about linda at www.lindaugelow.com.
Do you wish you could decode people? Do you want a formula for charisma? Do you want to know exactly what to say to your boss, your date or your networking partner? You need to know how people work. My guest today is Vanessa Van Edwards, a human behavior investigator. She studies the hidden forces that drive our behavior patterns in her lab—and she’s cracked the code. In her new book, Captivate, she shares a wealth of valuable shortcuts, systems and behavior hacks for taking charge of interactions at work, at home, and in any social situation. These aren’t the people skills you learned in school. This is the first comprehensive, science backed, real life manual on human behavior and a completely new approach to building connections. We discuss Vanessa's new book and how public speakers can use her research and findings to be better on stage. Her advice is insightful, easy to try, and game changing. Check out more of her resources at www.scienceofpeople.com/podcast. Enjoy!
Chris Landry has been telling stories professionally for 15+ years. When he worked as a fundraiser in non-profits, he found out that if he told a story about who the money was helping, it increased the amount donors gave. He took his knack for storytelling and started Landry Communications, a firm that helps mission-driven organizations tell their stories with more impact. In today's episode, Chris shares the mistakes people make when telling a story, the steps to craft an interesting story from your own life, how to use slides effectively to add to your story, how to infuse stories when your presentations are data-driven, and much more. If you think your stories are boring or lacking an edge, this episode will help you discover what makes your experiences worth talking about. You can learn more about Chris' work at www.christopherlandry.com.
Howdy, friends! I'm back this week with another installment of Q&A. This is my third episode like this (see episode 10 + 25 for the others) and I'm answering YOUR questions! Today I answer a question about how to deal with negative feedback and go deep into all types of feedback and what to do with it. (Where was this advice when I really needed it?!) I also cover a lighter topic, like what to wear on stage so you add to your presentation rather than take away from it. I even address a question about how to raise your hand for the first time and I tell you about a huge milestone that happened in my own life this morning! Talk about timely. Lastly, I take a question about how to build leadership and communication skills if you're in a job that doesn't offer that type of training. Get ready for lots of stories, slightly zany ideas, and lots of public speaking advice on today's episode of Claim the Stage. If you want to submit a question for a future Q&A episode, email me at email@example.com. Enjoy!
In today's episode, you'll get to hear a unique approach to interviewing - the double interview! You'll hear from Pam Victor, professional improviser and founder of Happier Valley Comedy School in western Massachusetts, as she interviews me for her podcast, Conversations with Funny Feminists, and I interview her for this podcast. It's a 2-for-1 special and you're invited. We talk all things public speaking, how improv can help you manage your fear, one easy strategy to go from stressed out to easeful, how to bring your unique voice to your presentations, and so much more. If you want to laugh alongside two women who are helping others find their voice through their work on stage, you will love this episode! Find out more about Pam Victor at www.happiervalley.com and be sure to check out her podcast for more conversations with funny feminists.
Kit Pang says if he wrote a book, it would be called From Introvert to Extrovert. He generously shares his story of going from shy teenager to curious and determined entrepreneur in the field of public speaking. Just last year, he decided to refocus his career to help public speakers build their skills on stage and market themselves so they stand out. He shares how he is building his brand and gives helpful tips for building yours. Kit’s hustle is inspiring and his stories are both informative and transformational. If you’re a new speaker starting out and looking for some ideas to get your name out there, this episode is sure to help!
Podcasting is an amazing way for speakers to share their advice, but is it the best content marketing tool for you? Since starting my podcast in June of last year, I've learned a lot. I'm celebrating my 40th episode by sharing my podcasting journey, the five main areas you need to consider before starting your own podcast, and tips to be successful. A fun fact about this episode is that there was something wrong with my mic but I didn't know it until I finished recording. What a great example of the podcasting adventure! Always more to learn. I liked the way the episode came out (in spite of the weird mic thing) and decided to keep it. I hope you enjoy it.
I also dedicate this episode to my cat, Gratitude. RIP, buddy.
We all saw the wild success of the Women's Marches on January 21st. Next Wednesday is The Day Without a Woman and International Women's Day. These initiatives are doing a good job bringing women together and raising awareness, but what else can we do? In today's episode, I share three strategies for building your own movement and showing up as a leader. I share a few stories about how not to do it and give you steps to take so you can start making a bigger impact. I also share something very exciting going on my life and invite you to get involved. As I always say, stop waiting, start creating. That motto could not be more true in today's episode of Claim the Stage.
Have you ever noticed yourself getting excited while listening to someone tell a story, even if the story wasn't that good? What do you think happened? Chances are, the storyteller was using other elements of communication to gain your attention. She may have been using her body, her breath, her energy, or her tone to keep you interested. In today's episode, you'll learn from Berit Elizabeth, an Emotive Agility Expert, who helps people - especially women - to tap into the underrated power of body language to transform any situation and one's own sense of self. She says, "Emotive Agility is the power to use your body language to impact the direction of your life. You can use your body language to manage your own emotions and you can use your body language to change the entire way you connect with other people." If you're ready to create a bigger, more meaningful presence both on stage and in conversation, this episode will help you think differently about how you're showing up and what you might want to start doing differently to increase your effectiveness. As a public speaker, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Enjoy!
"No matter where you’re from, how old you are, or what your background is, we’re a lot more alike than we think. Our strength comes from sharing experiences and being together and when you’re down, someone else will lift you up. It’s something we know is so special and so important when we build our trips." - Danielle Thornton. On today's episode, I interview Danielle Thornton and Allison Fleece, co-founders of WHOA Travel, a community of kick ass women from all over the world. They put together adventures that help women get out of their comfort zones while accomplishing goals in a likeminded community. When I learned about what they do, my first thought was, I need to talk to them! You'll learn what the women who take their adventures learn, what motivated Danielle and Allison to start their company, and how it is helping women to find their voice and change their lives. What I love most about this interview is hearing their zest for life and their outlook. They say, "Shared like-mindedness is what bonds women at the end of the day" and "If you've got that inner voice telling you there's more to this life, it's because there is." If you are an apprehensive public speaker and could use a new outlook on your speaking adventure, look no further than this episode. As the women of WHOA would tell you, "If not now, when?"
Fear. It's one of the things that stops us from getting on stage, stops us from saying what's true for us, and stops us from asking for what we want. In today's episode, you'll learn how to reframe fear so it not only helps you, but walks alongside you like a good friend. My guest, Christina Stathopoulos, is the Founder and Head Coach of Hear Her Roar, a private coaching practice for women. She is an Accomplishment Coaching-Certified Coach who specializes in working with high performing women who are keen on developing bold voices, perfecting the work/life balance, and creating a life that serves them. As you hear her career journey, she discusses decisions motivated by fear and what she did when she realized her whole life had been built on running from it. She gives us tips on how to invite fear to the stage with us, how to think about nervousness differently, what it might look like to reframe negotiation and hard conversations, and what she does today when fear pops up. Christina is walking her talk and will give you a lot to think about how you handle fear in your own life. Rather than conquer it, learn how to befriend fear on today's episode of Claim the Stage.
Last week, I brought you a couple of interviews with the women of speaking school. Today, I continue that trend by bringing you conversations with three more women who've graduated from my signature course, the Speaking School for Women. You'll hear from Sandra Costello, a photographer who experienced a life changing moment that made her reevaluate everything. She tells us how she discovered what she wants to speak about, what she learned about herself, and what's she's doing today. You'll also hear from Mindy Rodenburg, a branding professional who infuses Southern hospitality into everything she does. She'll share a hilarious moment from the stage and give her best advice for women who are considering paid public speaking. My last interview is with Dawn Powell-Morris, a woman who changed her direction after figuring out her brand during the course. She is now working on another huge project before taking the stage and she'll tell you all about it. Listen in as they share their insights, reflections, and ah-ha moments on today's episode of Claim the Stage.
If you are interested in enrolling in speaking school, there are 8 spots left as of 1:00 PM EST on Wednesday, February 1, 2017. Registration closes when the spots are filled and school starts February 21st. Get more information here or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
My signature program, the Speaking School for Women, is back February 21st. The school only opens twice a year and I'm often asked what the experience is like. In today's episode, I talk with a couple of the women who participated in it and ask them about their time in the school, what has happened since then, and their best advice for aspiring speakers and students. This is part 1 of a two-part series in which I get a chance to talk with women I consider to not just be past students, but also friends. Today you'll hear from Meghan Godorov, a career coach who focuses on helping mid-career professionals get unstuck and move forward with their career and Kelsey Flynn, a communications professional, standup comedian, and speaker on the subject of digital detox. These women are funny, insightful, determined, and having fun living life. Next week, I'll talk to three more women who will share their experiences with speaking and their advice for you. Enjoy!
After last week's episode about the STAGE System, I received a lot of questions about what it actually looks like to take the steps I outline in my method of speech craft. The questions weren't all simple - many of them had an undertone of anxiety and fear that made me realize I needed to talk a bit more about the process of arriving at your personal style as a speaker. This episode outlines that journey and I teach you how to do it so you don't make yourself crazy in the process. This is a shorter episode than normal, but don't let its small size deceive you - it packs a punch! If you haven't already listened to episode 32, I'd recommend starting there and then coming back to this episode. It'll make a lot more sense. Enjoy!
Hey friends! Welcome to my first episode of 2017. I'm back!
Rather than create another boring slide show or endlessly rattle through tons of data, what if you could learn an approach that teaches you to build a presentation that showcases your personality, highlights your unique experiences, and allows you to deliver your stories and information in a way that feels good to you?
After giving 700+ talks, I’ve realized there is a formula for being yourself on stage. I put it all together and created the STAGE System which is an acronym for style, truth, art, group, and energy. It gives you a chance to pause and ask yourself who you want to bring to the stage. If you are naturally funny, how can you incorporate some humor into your talk? If you went through a life-changing experience, how can you tie that into your subject? If you love interacting with the audience, how can you make that a big part of your speech? By using the STAGE System as your guide, you build your talk so you are in your element and really shining on stage.
If you want to craft a speech that puts your personal stamp on every presentation, you are going to love this episode.
Are you aware of how often you use weak language? In this eye opening episode, Dr. Phyllis Mindell, a pioneer and expert on professional communication, walks us through the many mistakes women make when it comes to sharing our opinions, giving feedback, presenting our work, and asking for what we want.
She tells us:
--the ONE word we must avoid almost all the time when speaking
--why you should take a second before you speak and the questions you should ask yourself before you open your mouth
--when women tend to use weak language the most
--how to rephrase your statements so you are not in opposition with your audience
--how to be a sweet, gentle, tough broad
--the one statement you never want to use at work and should also avoid at home
--the four most common mistakes women make on stage and what to do instead if you want your audience to trust and respect you
--the secret of all good communication
Find out more about Dr. Mindell's work at www.thewordgrandma.com launching on her 80th birthday, January 30, 2017.
Kara Martin Snyder has made a career of turning around chaotic, painful situations ranging from bankruptcy cases to constipation. Her wide ranging skills come from making a huge shift in her 20s when she realized her job was killing her. What she has done for herself and others since then is inspiring and a great example of how you can take a literally shitty situation and turn it into a whole new career path. Kara shares how she helps frazzled, Type A women to face their health concerns and feel better through her coaching, podcast, and speaking engagements.
In this episode, you'll learn how Kara prepares for her talks by tempering her ego and her pacing. She shares her advice for cutting down your material so you don’t overwhelm your audience, we discuss the value of hydration, a good meal, and sleep as speech preparation, and you'll learn how to rescue yourself and your audience from a tanking talk. Kara also shares why you should start speaking now and say yes to opportunities even if you think you’re not ready. You'll also hear the cringe worthy story of a moment that went being the most shameful event of her life to an enlightening revelation that changed her course forever.
Alison Podworski knew at the age of 9 that she wanted to be a television news reporter. After years on TV, she transitioned to work in PR and opened her own agency to assist small business owners, speakers, authors, and other types of clients with their PR needs. In today's episode, Alison shares her #1 piece of advice for every business owner, no matter what age or stage. She tells us what PR really is and why speakers need a PR strategy, how to get national attention by focusing on local media outlets, popular misconceptions about PR, what a PR agency does and how they help increase your chances of getting media attention, how to create a compelling angle when pitching yourself to the media, steps to take to promote your speaking gig yourself through social media and press releases, what to do if you have a limited budget but want to start building up your PR opportunities, how to think of yourself as an expert if you don’t think you are ready for that title, and so much more! This episode is action packed with all things PR. If you're ready to get noticed and start building your brand in a big way, you'll love what today's show has to offer. Enjoy!
“Speaking is a great way to demonstrate thought leadership, expose your brand, and get business. Speaking is a business development effort.”-Steve Markman
Today's guest is Steve Markman, president of Markman Speaker Management, a speaker placement firm. Steve helps speakers get both paid and unpaid speaking engagements by using his 30 years of event and conference experience. In this interview, he shares with us the most important thing a conference organizer is looking for when they hire a speaker, the falsehood among speakers that stops them from landing big speaking gigs, the one thing a paid speaker must have on their website to get hired, what your speaker video should include to showcase you as a speaker, and the #1 reason you won’t get hired for a speaking gig. Steve also shares the most common negative feedback speakers receive and how to avoid it, and how to present like a pro. Find out the three most important questions to ask yourself to get started as a paid speaker, and much more! Steve really knows his stuff and this is the perfect episode if you have any interest in being seen as a leader or speaker in your field.
When Stacey Shipman was in 6th grade, she won the "Quietest Girl" award and now she is a brave communication expert who helps people do things they think they can't do. This episode is all about the art of the interaction and how to create a genuine connection with your audience through engagement. She teaches us the first step to go from presenting a monologue to creating an interactive experience, what the "Rule of Threes" is and how to use it, how to incorporate humor into the questions you ask your audience, and she tells us the biggest mistakes speakers make when trying to engage the crowd. She says, "A presentation is a work of art. It's a creative opportunity to put words together and deliver them verbally. It's a living thing." She also shows us a unique way to quickly build trust with our audience, how to show up as yourself instead of someone you think you "should" be, and so much more. If you want to learn how to build a meaningful conversation and a memorable experience for your audience, you don't want to miss today's episode of Claim the Stage!
What is "embodiment" and why will it make you a better, less fearful speaker? My guest Donna Brooks says, “Embodiment is living the fullness of your incarnated experience. It’s that moment when you feel rich and full of life in yourself. Without that, it doesn’t give our audience the fullness of what we can offer and express to them.” In this week's episode, we're taking a whole new approach to speaking by using fear as the doorway to connecting with your audience. You'll learn how to create a playful, fun, light experience for your audience rather than putting them under stress and wondering when it will end. Donna will also teach you how to reduce fear over time and use it to energize your speech, how to stop abandoning yourself on stage to create a better experience for you and your audience, why you should stop trying to entertain your audience (and what to do instead), and you'll learn the two questions to ask yourself before every talk. And, great news! You don’t have to follow the old fashioned public speaking rules to be an effective speaker. Find out how to do all of this and more on today's episode of Claim the Stage!
How do I book my first gig? What if I'm not an expert? How do I know what my value is? In this special episode, instead of me asking the questions, you're the guest interviewer! I took your questions from social media and email and compiled a list of the top six. If you're interested in writing a book, learning how to build a speaking business while working full-time, how to determine how much information is too much in your speech, what to do when you feel like everyone around you is a success (and you aren't), and how to find your authentic voice, you've come to the right place. I tackle all of these topics and more in today's episode of Claim the Stage. PS: I'll be doing more episodes like this, so keep the questions coming! You can submit yours at email@example.com. Enjoy!